eHarmony

This site is garbage! I signed up for 3 months and i canceled it within the week! I got a whopping 300+ matches, of those I'd say maybe only25 had pictures, and 90% of those that did have pictures were all fat women. I put everything i was looking for in those 1000 questions you get asked and i get matched up with fat women. There is also no search engine, so you're stuck with who you're 'matched' up with. I complained to them directly and you know what they told me? I have to look past the looks and to their personality. Yea effin right. If there's no attraction physically in any way, nothings gonna happen. Thumbs down to this site, had a better experience on match.com.

I think most of the complaints expressed here are from those who have not used eHarmony appropriately. The secret is to make sure that you go to "My Settings" and visit each of "Distance", "Personal Preferences", and "Backgrounds and Beliefs" and adjust the "How important is this to you?" to reflect the appropriate significance that you personally want to apply. For example under "I would like my matches to be between the ages of X and Y" you need not only to enter the appropriate ages but also say how important it is that you only get matches that fall between those ages. So if it is VERY IMPORTANT then make sure the marker is moved to #7. If you don't do this you are much more likely to get matches that are outside of the values of "X" and "Y".

But please remember that sometimes eHarmony will still send you someone who does not meet a particular value you have set because the proposed match measures so highly on the 29 deep criteria measured by the extensive questionnaire you each completed.

As for the physical appearance of any particular proposed match sent to you, it is important to remember two things. First, that the software they use is not capable of measuring the appearance of a photo against some criteria that you may currently be carrying in your mind. And two, that as the site says any match sent you has been evaluated against the 29 deeper criteria and so it is recommended that you rarely reject someone based solely on their physical appearance.

I want to address the issue of this supposedly being a "Christian" website. Nothing could be more incorrect. I myself have followed my own advice given above and excluded any "Christian" and set my choice to "Spiritual but not religious" and moved the bar to make this a very important criteria. I get lots of matches sent me and none of them are from Christians.

Finally, one important tip. Whenever you change criteria, make sure you hit "Save" or your change will not be applied to possible matches.

The worst consumer experience, the worst dating experience I've ever had. Of the 95 matches they sent me 90 were not even within my geographical settings of 200 miles. Of the 5 that were within my region 2 were not even paid subscribers, one was too old, one too young and one too big. I'm contacted by a woman a six hour drive away. I give it a try. She nurtures a relationship over the phone. But when I drive to the city in which she lives I meet the old boy friend who is still in the house, couch surfing in her living room, she's completely unable to get rid of him. But Eharmony calls this abuse "service". Read their terms. They are selling nothing but an unqualified list of names. How is this doing business in good faith? It just isn't. And they come from a "faith perspective" initially!?! These people have no integrity; have no concept of what abuse really is.

I will start by mentioning that I'm an atheist, and I still get a lot of matches, and so to me it does not seem to matter that I'm not Christian. So even if you're not Christian, you can still have a lot of matches.

I signed up for eHarmony about four days ago. I immediately got several matches, and I've had about ten new matches a day. I find that I have too many though, because a large percentage of the ones that view my profile contact me. I've got a few people in open communication at the moment, and a couple want to meet in real life. Several other matches are on about the third stage.

I'm nice looking and young though...so maybe that's it.

No "Eh" is not only for Christians...however, it is for the very very patient. Have you ever played table tennis underwater? That's exactly what it's like on Eh...slow slow slow - like a glacier forming thru the eons. One must pay $137 US for a minimum 3 mo experience... Very little ( zed) customer service. Match, JDATE, much faster and results oriented.

I agree with the person that said, if you are not Christian don't bother. EHarmony is a Christian dating site that for some reason decides to hide that fact in their advertising. When I signed up last September I listed myself as not religious and did not receive ONE MATCH. Nothing, nada, zip. SO. . . I did an experiment. I was given the opportunity to redo my questionnaire and changed my religion to Christian to see what would happen. No joke, I had 200 matches by the next morning.

Of course, if you are a Christian (or religious in general) and are looking for others of the same beliefs, then by all means try it out. If you are not, STAY AWAY!!! Do not waste your money. I have nothing wrong with dating sites matching people based on religion, but at least be up front about it!

Eharmony is a complete joke! A waste of good money! I am a 36 year old woman with a preference for men my age or slightly younger and they kept sending me matches of men of men 40 to 51 when my preference is 30- 41! Any younger guy id message would ignore me while these old lechers kept badgering me.

I'm sure the site is fairly good if you pay the high fee. However the 10 day free trial is really pointless considering you CAN'T see what your matches look like. eHarmony fails because of this. Bad enough that online dating is a crap shoot as it is by having to deal with fake profiles, scammers, and narcissists; But to not show pics of your matches? Online blind dating equals no for me!

I have had no problems. Get many matches a day. Lots of contact, requests for communication, long conversations on the phone and many dates. All in one month. And all within my criteria (which was pretty strict). I am early 40s and matches are 35-50. Having a great time looking for the "one".

I have been thinking of e-harmony for a while but after reading the comments, it is exactly what I suspected - a rip-off for men who can't find a woman, and a place for the "cougars" to find a younger man. Let's face it, life is not going to bring you what you want - Stop "shopping on line", stop drinking so much, and face the fact that you are, like I am, old and not desirable any more. Stop talking about yourself as "Hot, late fifties", etc. Nobody in their late fifties is "Hot" - get a mirror and clean it well before you look into it. Do some volunteer work and grow old gracefully - alone!!!