Ashley Madison

I'm a 71 year old man that's 11-months into a wonderful woman that I met on AM. She's 64 and our sex lives are the very best in our lives. We're also very good friends and occasionally meet outside of hotel rooms.

The odds are stacked against men, about 20 or 30 to 1. Your Profile has to be honest, with an accurate, recent picture. Your first Message has to be excellent, since you'll either find yourself at first base, or out of the game. It's essential to talk about respecting the woman, protecting her and her existing relationship and how excited that you'd be to meet her.

I've gotten to first base with four women. One was 100-lbs beyond her picture, another was VERY controlling, so I bailed. One is my current GF of almost a year. One other wanted to go forward, but I withdrew, finding it too stressful to consider dealing with another relationship when I already have a wife and GF.

AM is real and so are many of the women. It's VERY competitive for the men, so you have to be on your A-game. DON'T send **** pictures in an initial Message. Even though that's what they want to get to, most of the women want to be shown respect and empathy. Once the sexting starts, then the pictures will flow.

Once you move off AM, consider using an encrypted Text and Phone app, like Signal. Set it so no notices go off when you receive messages and have it automatically delete all messages after a certain time. Use the thumbprint sign in. Managed properly and you'll never have to worry about a spouse looking at your phone. It's excellent.