t Ashley Madison
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121 Ratings 3.11 / 5
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Quick Facts
Cost Highlight for 1 month $29.70
Popularity 1.4 million active users
Very popular
Gender make-up Men/women equal
(1 to 1)
No gender bias

Ashley Madison offers a discreet online service for anyone considering dating outside of their existing relationship. Those wishing to use the site's messaging system (the only way to communicate) must purchase credits to do so. Access is free for women.

The Basics... Married or Single?

Two types of people use Ashley Madison: Those who're married or in a long-term relationship but want to date outside of that relationship. Then there are those who are single, but for whatever reason want to date someone who's involved with someone else.

Ashley Madison has proven that there is a strong demand for extra-marital dating for a variety of reasons.

  • Free guest account lets you do almost everything but communicate
  • Pay as you go credits means you only pay for what you use
  • Privacy settings let you stay in control and entirely anonymous

Being one of the most well-known extra-marital sites, Ashley Madison is the go to choice for attached people wishing to date outside of their main relationship -- they offer a range of privacy options, allowing people to connect with one-another in relative anonymity.

Women can use the site for free. The credit system means that men only pay for services that they use - there are no recurring monthly fees and the credits will stay active until used. If you select top-up they will re-bill you once you spend existing credits, unless you choose to cancel the service beforehand.

Setting-up a Profile

Joining the site and setting up a picture profile is free for both men and women. Just go to the sign up form on the home page. There are five main sections to the profile, however if you are in a rush, it's possible to skip some of the less important questions. The sign up asks for minimal information and takes no more than a minute or two to complete.

You can say on your profile whether you are attached or not and the type of relationship you are open to, and whether you are seeking a same-sex or opposite-sex relationship.

your match settings

Don't forget your preferences

The "Intimate Desires" and "Perfect Match" sections let you express your personal sexual preferences, and the type of person you are seeking.

I would advise completing these sections as it allows others to see why you are there.

Adding a photo to your profile will enhance its appeal and may increase your chances of finding a date.


Adding a photo to your profile will greatly enhance its appeal and may increase your chances of finding a date. On a lot of dating websites profiles without photos tend to be ignored. However, not surprisingly, many people are cautious about adding photos that may reveal their presence on the site.

Most members avoid this problem as follows:

  • Upload a photo in which your face is hidden, or
  • Create a private photo showcase

The site allows you to upload images containing nudity or sexual content; however they must be body-shot photos and they have to be approved. This is a good option for those who don't want to reveal their identity.

Your profile preferences allow you to opt in or out of viewing adult rated images.

You can use the private showcase to keep things out of sight.

In addition, if you want to add a pass-code to your photos, just put the photos into a private showcase (private album). You can then decide which members can see your pictures. When other people view your profile, they can easily request your pass code. You will then be able to grant or deny them access to your pictures as you choose.

Finding People

There aren't any matchmaking tools on Ashley Madison as such. What they do have is quick search (located at the top of every page), which allows you to find compatible people anywhere from 20 to 500 miles away. By compatible, I mean it will show you people who "most closely" match the preferences as stated on your profile.

search options

If the quick search isn't enough, just click the "advanced search" button and you'll see a list of other options that will allow you to refine your matches further. One handy setting here is the "Status / Login" which allows you to filter-out people who haven't been active recently.

As well the advanced searching lets you locate people by appearance, ethnicity, languages, and their relationship status. It lets you hide profiles that don't have at least one private or public photo.


Communicating with other members is straightforward and self-explanatory. The site provides a basic messaging system, and live chat for talking directly with members who are online.

Women can always communicate for free on AshleyMadison. This includes email, instant messaging, & sending flirts.

There's also an option to create a list of your favorites. However one thing to keep in mind is that anyone you add to your favorites list will receive a notification email. This is not really ideal if you want to keep your admirer a secret.

Women can always communicate for free. This includes email, instant messaging, sending flirts and so on. Men can only read and reply to messages if they've purchased credits. However, on the plus side the credit system does mean you only pay for what you use.

Once you've been in contact with someone, you have the ability to add feedback to their profile. The feedback is anonymous, but it is useful as it gives you some idea of that person's reputation and their activity level on the site.

Travel Man/Woman

Ashley Madison now offer something called "Travel Man" and "Travel Woman". This is worth considering if you are planning a trip away and want to schedule some "hanky panky". You enter your destination and the type of women or men you'd like to meet.

Billing is discreet so that nobody is alerted to your use of the site.

You can then send out private invitation messages to any people matching your type and who're near your destination, saving you from searching and messaging, and using-up credits. It'll even tell you beforehand how many you'll reach - you then have the option to go ahead or cancel.

Upgrades & Credits

For men, there are three credit packages on offer, ranging from the basic 100 credits, up to something called "Elite". Credits are "spent" on activities such as emailing or live chat. In addition, men must also pay what's called an "account activation" fee. This is a one-time fee which will enable your account for the first time.

It goes without saying that billing is discreet so that nobody is alerted to your use of the site.

Credit optionsWhen you subscribe to any credit package you'll automatically receive 30 days of Member Initiated Contact (MIC) for free. This lets you read or reply to conversations initiated by other members without using up your credits.

Those wishing to cancel their account permanently will find there are two choices: either deactivation or full delete.

Those who opt for the full delete (instead of the regular deactivation) will have their entire history removed from the site including messages and any personally identifiable information. That even includes messages delivered to other members' inboxes.


Whether you agree with the ethics of Ashley Madison or not, one thing is clear. They've established that there is a strong demand for extra-marital dating for a variety of reasons.

According to available figures, there are around 1.4 million active on the site, with a few thousand more joining each month.

Not surprisingly, Ashley Madison has had a lot of criticism from various organizations from pro-marriage groups to religious bodies. But ultimately, this negative publicity only seems to have made them stronger. It's also enhanced people's awareness of the site and those like it.

In Summary

If you've thought it through and have decided you want to date outside of marriage or a long-term relationship for whatever reason, Ashley Madison does let you do that in a relatively safe and controlled way.

While women can use most things for free, men should keep in mind that the credit system can work out expensive, especially if you're using the messenger frequently.

The good

  • Large, global membership base
  • Comprehensive range of privacy features
  • Most things are free for women
  • Profile feedback lets you figure who is real

The bad

  • Credits can work out expensive in the long-run
  • High ratio of men to women (a plus for women though)
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    suvoMay 26th, 2021

    Just average

    I am from Bangladesh, Age 35. Searching Real Woman Friend.
    If your Mind Assist You Mail Me
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    SlimmApril 6th, 2021


    Men outnumber women by a huge number, and their membership is free. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. I'm in an urban area of 7 million. You'd think there would be plenty of women. There aren't. The same old small bunch, many are overweight, live in distant rural areas, even other states. Ashley Madison owns review sites, so they put up bulls__t reviews. It's not worth it. You're too outnumbered. Lots of fake photos, fake profiles, bots, and lying women to boot.
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    SuckerFebruary 16th, 2021


    I’ve tried this site multiple times over the past 10 years. Before the hacking and public embarrassment there were some cool women here and I met a few. It ever since it’s been a total scam. The “women” who actually respond and then even bother to look at private pics is 2/100 contacts. My age range is 25-40 but after using 400 credits with no contact I went to 40 - 60 for fun. I met one woman in my area who was 60, smart, but tbh very unappealing. All in all I’ve spent $500 over the past 3 years thinking that the site might have recovered. Frankly, yields a lot of interest for married men who can treat a lady to some nice things and the profiles are about 40% real.
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    coraAugust 25th, 2020


    I have been in love with a man for two years.
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    LyudmilaJune 15th, 2020

    Just average

    I am nice, young, sociable girl. I shall wait from someone the letter on my mail box.
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    martin_5May 20th, 2020

    Just average

    married but i need a partner
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    jackApril 14th, 2020

    Above average

    i wanna make friends
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    bekkyApril 8th, 2020

    Just average

    I am married and I wish to contact one man personally for a long term relationship
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    bernard_28April 23rd, 2019

    Below average

    can i get miss right here? I am searching for one
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    wildmanjohnMarch 17th, 2019

    Below average

    Looking for mutually beneficial relationships. I am a 55-year-old male. I look at this matter from the perspective of a user. I have been on AM for a few months, but this site is not very friendly to me. There are many women who send me a message. The news started very enthusiastic, but then there was no news. I didn't see anyone. I wasted a lot of energy and time, but I didn't give up. I was still looking for it. Later I found a suitable one on MF. Discrete relationship, I feel great, enjoying our date, the fresh woman gives me a wonderful feeling, let me feel the youthful energy, you can also try to find something you need here.
Ashley Madison 3.11 121 A review of Ashley Madison. Ashley Madison offers a discreet online service for anyone considering dating outside of their existing relationship.