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129 Ratings 2.78 / 5
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Quick Facts
Cost 100 Credits - Introductory $49.00
Popularity 1.3 million active users
Very popular
Gender make-up Men/women equal
(1 to 1)       
No gender bias

Ashley Madison offers a discreet online service for anyone considering dating outside of their existing relationship. Those wishing to use the site's messaging system (the only way to communicate) must purchase credits to do so. Access is free for women.

The Basics... Married or Single?

There are basically two types of people on Ashley Madison; those who are married or in a long-term relationship (attached), and those who are single, but for whatever reason want to date someone who’s involved with someone else.

Ashley Madison has proven that there is a strong demand for extra-marital dating for a variety of reasons.

Women can use the site for free, whilst men who wish to communicate either via the onsite email or instant chat must purchase credits to do so.

The credit system means that men only pay for those services that they use - there are no recurring monthly fees. However men will be re-billed once they spend their existing credits, unless they choose to cancel the service beforehand.

Being one of the most well-known extra-marital sites, Ashley Madison is a viable choice for attached people wishing to date outside of their main relationship -- they offer a range of privacy options, allowing people to connect with one-another in relative anonymity.

Setting-up a Profile

Joining the site and setting up a picture profile is free for both men and women. There are five main sections to the profile, however if you are in a rush, it’s possible to skip some of the less important questions.

You can say on your profile whether you are attached or not and the type of relationship you are looking for, and whether you are seeking a same-sex or opposite-sex relationship.

Don't forget your preferences

The "Intimate Desires" and "Perfect Match" sections let you express your personal sexual preferences, and the type of person you are seeking. I would advise completing these sections as it allows others to see why you are there.

Adding a photo to your profile will enhance its appeal and may increase your chances of finding a date.

Under "Profile Options" there’s a setting which lets you opt-out of market research. What does this mean exactly? Well if you take a look at the Terms and Conditions, it tells you that if you opt-into market research (the start-up setting) you may receive messages, gifts, chat requests and so on which are part of a "market research program" rather than being from real users.

Market research is not identified as such, so you won’t be able to tell the difference from normal messages or contacts.


Adding a photo to your profile will greatly enhance its appeal and may increase your chances of finding a date. On a lot of dating websites profiles without photos tend to be ignored. However, not surprisingly, many people are cautious about adding photos that may reveal their presence on the site. Most members avoid this problem as follows:

  • Upload a photo in which your face is hidden, or
  • Create a private photo showcase

The site forbids uploading of images containing nudity or sexual content; however you are allowed to include body-shot photos providing they are not too explicit. This is a good option for those who don’t want to reveal their identity.

You can use the private showcase to keep things out of sight.

In addition, if you want to add a pass-code to your photos, simply put the photos into a private showcase (private album). You can then decide which members can see your pictures. When other people view your profile, they can easily request your pass code. You will then be able to grant or deny them access to your pictures as you choose.

Finding People

There aren’t any matchmaking tools on Ashley Madison as such. What they do have is quick search (located at the top of every page), which allows you to find compatible people anywhere from 20 to 500 miles away. By compatible, I mean it will show you people who "most closely" match the preferences as stated on your profile.

search options

If the quick search isn’t enough, just click the "advanced search" button and you’ll see a list of other options that will allow you to refine your matches further. One handy setting here is the "Status / Login" which allows you to filter-out people who haven’t been active recently.


Communicating with other members is straightforward and self-explanatory. The site provides a basic email system, as well as an instant messenger for talking directly with members who are online (see "fantasy date").

Women can always communicate for free on AshleyMadison. This includes email, instant messaging, & sending flirts.

There’s also an option to create a list of your favorites. However one thing to keep in mind is that anyone you add to your favorites list will receive a notification email. This is not really ideal if you want to keep your admirer a secret.

Women can always communicate for free. This includes email, instant messaging, sending flirts and so on. Men can only communicate if they’ve purchased credits. However, on the plus side the credit system does mean you only pay for what you use.

Once you’ve been in contact with someone, you have the ability to add feedback to their profile. The feedback is anonymous, but it is useful as it gives you some idea of that person’s reputation and their activity level on the site.

Fantasy Date

Ashley Madison offers something called "Fantasy Date". It’s basically a simple chat tool that allows you to communicate one-on-one with a chosen date partner. One nice twist is that it lets you set different back-drops to set the mood for your date - there’s a yacht, a coffee lounge, or a bedroom to choose from (you get the idea).

fantasy date

The chat system allows you to display a photo or part of a photo, which will be visible to your "date". There’s also an option to add a mask. For those who are really shy, a cartoon-like avatar can be used. Fantasy date is explained in more detail in their onsite video tutorial.

Upgrades & Credits

For men, there are three credit packages on offer, ranging from the starter 100 credits, up to something called "Affair Guarantee". Credits are "spent" on activities such as emailing or fantasy dates (see above). In addition, men must also pay what’s called an "account activation" fee. This is a one-time fee which will enable your account for the first time.

Those wishing to cancel their account permanently will find there's also a one-time cancellation fee required to remove the account. Those who opt for the permanent cancellation (instead of the regular free cancellation) will have their history removed from the site. That means messages delivered to other members' inboxes. Women must also pay the cancellation fee if they wish to have their entire activity on the site erased.


Whether you agree with the ethics of Ashley Madison or not, one thing is clear. They've established that there is a strong demand for extra-marital dating for a variety of reasons.

According to available figures, there are around 1.3 million active on the site, with a few thousand more joining each month.

Not surprisingly, Ashley Madison has had a lot of criticism from various organizations from pro-marriage groups to religious bodies. But ultimately, this negative publicity only seems to have enhanced people’s awareness of the site and those like it.

In Summary

If you've thought it through and have decided you want to date outside of marriage or a long-term relationship for whatever reason, Ashley Madison does let you do that in a relatively safe and controlled way.

While women can use most things for free, men should keep in mind that the credit system can work out expensive, especially if you’re using the messenger frequently.

The good

  • Large, active membership base
  • A range of privacy features
  • Most things are free for women
  • Profile feedback lets you figure who is real

The bad

  • Credits can work out expensive in the long-run
  • High ratio of men to women (a plus for women though)
Rating from 130 customers

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11 Reviews
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    grunzyAugust 14th, 2018

    Above average

    I am looking for for chat if possible waiting for ur reply
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    coraMay 1st, 2018


    After being married for 10 years and 2 kids later, the luster had been long gone from our marriage.
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    Dennis_5103March 20th, 2018

    Just average

    One negative thing: not enough women.... Check for yourself....
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    LifeCoachMay 16th, 2017


    Get relationship advice, so that all of us can have happy family with good relationships.
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    chamathApril 28th, 2017

    Just average

    looking for a married woman in kandy sri lanka for fun
    no age limits love to have fun with married women while their
    husbands awe away if like mail me
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    customer222May 19th, 2016


    I was signed up for two days, got around 50 winks/messages, and only ONE was from the type of guy I was actually looking for. I specifically stated on my profile that I wanted a younger guy, but got all these propositions from 40-some and 50-some year-old men.

    I'm not even close to being 40 yet.

    Sorry, but I was left with a feeling of yuck and then tried to delete my profile. Guess what? You have to pay freakin' $20 to fully delete your profile after you sign up! What a rip-off!

    And no I wasn't looking for a Brad Pitt lookalike, but neither was I looking for a fat, graying old man either. Sorry to be blunt but that's how I feel.
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    PhoenixMay 13th, 2016

    Just average

    Marriage is sacred yes I agree with that Geana, but if you are unhappy there is no point forcing a bad situation. If vows are not followed by real action then what do you really have? What is your marriage in the end then but a worthless piece of paper. Is cheating really cheating when your spouse denies you affection and any attention for year after year and expects everything from you and gives nothing in return? I am not saying cheating is right just that not everything is as black and white as some here are saying.
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    CasDatNovember 2nd, 2015

    Just average

    Many people complaining about AM. But seriously, tthis may be the best affair website after Saphrina. You won't ifnd any better site than those two anyway.

    It is pretty clear that men outnumber women on EVERY SINGLE affair website. But AM and Saphrina at least have some REAL and AUTHENTIC women on there as well.
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    GeanaJuly 20th, 2015


    Marriage is a sacred bond if your not happy get the **** out !!! Anyone that can
    Cheat on their spouse is a heartless human being . What the **** is this world
    Coming to? All the hurt and pain it causes, you not only hurt's your spouse but what all the family and friends ? There's always two sides to every story so while this person is telling you about their sexless mariage wouldn't it be nice to know why their not getting any? Don't you people ever worry about disease's
    That you can catch ?
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    Latina333June 4th, 2015


    Ugh ladies don't get your panties in a bunch. I'm in my happy marriage for over 11years now and I don't mind hubby playing outside. For many years it's been embedded in us that men should not cheat; and if he does he doesn't love you. Men are more prone to cheat because it's in their nature.

    As long you have a mutual understanding of the can and the cannot do, than you should be find oh but that's right, we are naturally wired to get all emotional and butt hurt about it, especially when society keep reminding us, that is immoral.

    I'm not saying that all men should cheat/play but I assure you they all want to, whether they act on it or not. If we would truly put those touchy feelings aside and understand the affairs of men, they don't come close enough to why "women" would cheat, remember we are wired differently. Most affairs for men is the physical aspect while we might wear our hearts on a sleeve they don't.

    Now I'm not saying women don't cheat just because but I'm just saying that when a man cheats it does not mean your marriage is completely over because again his reasons my not be the same reasons why we as women might do it.The more open you are about your marriage, the more fun it is.
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